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Apparently I have been being mean on the forums. I am curious if this is the case or if there are too many sensitive people on here that can't handle the information or ideas they post questioned??
reptastic said:Ill put it this way, you have a way of coming at people that makes them feel belittled, I have gotten a few pm's, the comment in that one thread in which I responded to you, you don't have to be sensitive to not want to be talked down too
m3s4 said:Being mean?
Really?
Is this a forum of mainly adults or 3rd graders?
laurarfl said:Well, the wording in your question will automatically turn away anyone who will probably want to answer. You give two choices: 1) James is mean 2) There are too many sensitive people on here that can't handle information posted or their ideas questioned.
So it reads as if anyone who thinks a particular situation involving you is harsh is either insulting you or they are overly sensitive. There is no opportunity for objectivity and it is a flawed discussion from the beginning. In the end, people who think you are not mean and who believe they are not overly sensitive are the only ones who will post.
Ujarak said:I have been reading this forum for quite some time although only have recently made an account. While i respect your knowlege in the reptile community i find alot that you seem to like to start arguments or take things to a place that the conversation never should have gone to. You put people on their heels alot when it really wasnt needed. The way you word things seem to be more on the aggressive side then nessesary.
laurarfl said:Mean is not the word I would choose. James, I know you don't care for me, do you want to have this on-line conversation?
Dana C said:I think that what exasperates many people is the expression of an opinion that they haven't earned. What I mean by that is, the stated opinion based upon here say. It is the "some guy/girl told me..." syndrome.
hey thats not fair i was working lol. i think iv said this in other posts. but sometimes people think something and type something else but dont mean it to be offensive thus there is a communication error of sorts and people take offense when that wasent the original intention. i have been accosted numerous time online for some things i have typed and wasent meant to be mean or offensive but came off that way.james.w said:I am no longer a moderator, and you felt confident enough to come forward and post. I think the ones that don't post are the ones that are overly sensitive so they won't have an explanation as to why/how I am too mean/harsh. You and Laura both have legitimate points and I will work on those things.